Keri Matthews, a mom of two, has worked in the ASPCA’s licensing department for more than five years. She lives on Long Island with her husband, Tom, her children, Gabriella and Tommy, and their Greyhound, Clyde.
After our daughter, Gabriella, spent nearly a year feeling hesitant around our 80-pound mush of a dog, Clyde, she is finally comfortable interacting with him—their bonding has begun! It is a wonderful accomplishment for our whole family.
How did we finally get to this place? Warm weather has definitely brought these two closer. Gabriella loves to fill her water buckets and have Clyde sit next to her. She and her brother, Tommy, also enjoy having Clyde as a spectator when they’re on the swing set. Just for sitting through the bucket-filling and swinging, Clyde gets treats and extra petting—a win for all!
We have also incorporated indoor bonding activities, including having Gabriella “brush” Clyde. She also loves to fill his water bowl. Both kids love to choose which treat Clyde will receive for brushing, sitting, etc.
We do have our setbacks, such as when Clyde gets so excited about his treats that he accidentally forgets what “gentle” means when taking treats from Gabriella’s hand. In this situation, we ask Gabriella to put the treat in Clyde’s bowl and all is well again. We make frequent trips to the pet supply store, where Gabrielle enjoys shopping for items for Clyde ranging from toys to treats.
If your child and pet are slow to bond, hang in there! As in our family’s case, sometimes bonding just doesn’t happen right away. When it does, it’s there to stay, and the love and memories formed between a child and their pet will last forever.
Guest blog by Lauren Martin, a proud mom of three cats, one bunny, one son and one daughter on the way. Lauren works in the Legal Department for the ASPCA, has published articles on animal law, and has taught animal law at St. John’s University School of Law.
After 11 months of nothing but babbling, one winter day my son looked at me and said, “Cat!” Not only was I thrilled to hear my son’s first word. but I was also proud of the word that he picked. Since my childhood, I have always valued animals and have treated them with dignity and respect. I have worked to ensure the humane treatment of animals throughout my adult life, ultimately working as an attorney at the ASPCA. When I learned that I was going to have a child, I knew that I wanted to instill that same love and respect for animals in my child that I hold so dear.
My son came home from the hospital to find that he had four “brothers and sisters” in the form of three loving cats and one adorable bunny. I wanted a love for animals to be a core part of my son’s values from the very beginning. From the start, I carefully introduced him to my animals and taught him to be gentle. I taught him not to pull the cats’ tails or ears, and I taught him not to chase our bunny (bunnies are at the bottom of the food chain, so being chased conjures some fearful thoughts!). But above all, I have tried to teach my son that animals matter. Together, we greet all of our animals each morning and give them love and attention each day. When my son and I take walks in our neighborhood, we are sure to give attention to all of the friendly dogs who are out taking walks, and in fact, my son often sits at our front window calling for Coco, our neighbors’ sweet Shih Tzu.
I believe that kindness to animals will never be something that my son needs to be taught as he gets older. It will be a core part of who he is as he journeys through his life, and I hope that the world will be a bit more humane because of him.
Guest blog by Alicia Meulensteen, a mom of two who works in the Development department at the ASPCA.
Play dates: your little guy or girl, a friend…and your pet? Playtime for three is not always welcome by friend or feline. Here’s how I ensure everyone has a good time during play dates:
My son Sam is three-and-a-half and our cat, Polly, is approaching 14. Sam is getting to an age where he wants to have his friends over more often. So far, these children tend to fall into two camps when it comes to meeting our cat: They either can’t get enough of her or they are frightened of her— especially if they have never interacted with a cat before.
In both scenarios, I find an introduction with treats for the cat gets everyone comfortable. For an excited child, it slows them down and prevents them from approaching the cat with a loud voice or really animated movements, both of which make the cat—a somewhat cranky senior kitty—a little nervous. Placing a treat on the floor lets the more timid children approach the cat on their terms, but they do not actually have to pet her or get too close.
Sometimes I’ll provide the cat dancer toy so kids can play with her without using their hands. A short, supervised time with kitty is usually enough to satisfy everyone’s interest, and then child and kitty both move on to something else. If anyone gets too carried away with the cat, or I can see her cornered, she’s airlifted out of the situation to safety. The key for cats is to designate a safe place where they can get out of reach of inquisitive or persistent little hands.
I realize dogs are a little different. Some dogs may jump up and knock over a little one in the process; dog toys and kid toys are easily confused, too! My neighbors have three little kids and two dogs, and often they just move the dogs upstairs when friends are over to avoid the issue altogether. For helpful pet tips, check out our guide to teaching dogs to behave around children as well as our cat behavior section.
How do you keep your pets safe during play dates? Tell us in the comments!
Summer travel season is in full swing, and we think family trips are always more fun when you bring your furry friends along. If you’re planning to hit the road this summer with your pets in tow, be sure to check out these travel safety tips before you go:
In the car:
Thinking about taking a road trip? It’s a good idea to practice having your pet ride along for a series of short rides leading up to your big trip. Keep your pets safe and secure in the car by having them ride in a well-ventilated crate or carrier. The crate should be large enough for your pet to stand, sit, lie down and turn around in. Be sure to pack plenty of water, and avoid feeding your pet in a moving vehicle. For a full list of car travel safety tips, visit our Pet Care section.
Traveling by plane:
Unless your furry friend is small enough to ride under your seat on a plane, the ASPCA suggests avoiding air travel with pets. However, if you must bring your pet along on your flight, it’s best to plan ahead. First, make sure all vaccinations are up-to-date and that your pet has been microchipped for identification purposes. Book a direct flight if possible, and purchase a USDA-approved shipping crate that is large enough for your pet to stand, sit and turn around in comfortably. Be sure to mark the crate with the words “Live Animal,” as well as your contact information and a photo of your pet. Attach a pouch of your pet’s food to the outside of her crate, and freeze water in a dish for your pet to drink as it melts throughout the flight. For more air travel safety tips, visit our Pet Care section.
No matter where you’re headed this summer, please be sure your pet is wearing an ID tag at all times. We’re wishing you many happy trails and safe travels. Don’t forget to send us a postcard of Fluffy soaking up the sun during your family’s vacation!
We’re happy to share some exciting news: Connecticut’s governor is poised to sign a bill that would transfer 34 acres of state land to the Catherine Violet Hubbard Foundation to be utilized as an animal sanctuary.
“We had asked in lieu of flowers that people send donations to The Animal Center,” says Jenny Hubbard, Catherine’s Mom. “There was an overwhelming response— within the course of a few weeks, they had received donations in Catherine’s memory totaling over $100,000. The Animal Center had been working to build an animal sanctuary, so we put all of our energy into making a foundation that could financially support the sanctuary for years to come.”
Plans for the Catherine Violet Hubbard Animal Sanctuary include indoor and outdoor facilities, which will provide a caring environment for dogs, cats, farm animals and native wildlife. The Animal Center will also continue to run its existing animal foster program.
“The Sanctuary will have on-site canine and feline communities,” Jenny says. “We are also going to do farm animal refuge—we will give respite to cows, sheep and chickens that might be neglected or abused, or need a home because a farm is closed due to financial reasons. In the long term, we hope to do native wildlife refuge and release for injured animals such as turtles or deer.”
Jenny notes that the Sanctuary’s main building will contain a visitor center, as well as a veterinary clinic. She says they plan to leave much of the Sanctuary’s land as-is, incorporating the outdoor animal spaces into existing woodlands and meadows.
Are you in the Connecticut area? Three teenage siblings will host the Shapiro Family Classical Music Concert on Saturday, June 14 at 5:00 P.M. at Trinity Episcopal Church, 651 Pequot Ave. in Southport, Connecticut. Proceeds from the concert will benefit the Sanctuary.
Stay tuned for more details to come as the Sanctuary plans progress. We can’t wait to see countless animals receive care as a result of Catherine’s inspirational dedication to animals in need.